We’re dedicated to helping LGBTQ+ adults create the life and relationships of their dreams, but where should they start?
Making a plan for personal growth can be overwhelming at best and impossible when it feels too big to tackle. We’ve made it easy by providing our list of the top 3 things to let go of to create the life and relationships of your dreams!
You deserve a love that is fully reciprocated by your partner. One-sided relationships drain your energy and encourage a pattern of people-pleasing that will ultimately end in another failed relationship. These habits don’t serve you, and it’s time to commit to creating relationships where you are giving just as much as you are receiving.
This is all rooted in how you view yourself. If you are constantly chasing after other people’s approval and giving what you aren’t receiving, you’ll never be happy or satisfied. You have to decide to put yourself first. If you ignore your own needs, it’s impossible to communicate them to someone else.
Here’s the key to prioritizing yourself: spend time alone to figure out what being you really means. When you know yourself deeply, it’s so much easier to communicate who you are to another person and set firm standards for how you expect to be treated.
Meditation, self care nights, and solo vacations are amazing ways to spend time with yourself. When you’re alone, you have the ability to quiet your mind and reconnect with the real you in a space focused on gratitude, forgiveness, and healing.
2.Other People’s Expectations
We’ve worked with so many people who have a successful career, the car, the house – everything they were told they should want – but they’re still deeply unhappy.
Take a look at that last sentence. Do you see what went wrong for them? They were so focused on what other people told them they wanted that they never stopped to ask themselves if they wanted it, too.
We all have a certain set of expectations that have been put on us by society, our families, our religion, or our friends. You have to let those expectations go and focus on what you want for your life.
When you stop living for other people’s approval, you can start living for yourself and creating the life and relationships that you actually want. All it takes is the decision to set your own expectations for your life, and you’re ready to set the boundaries necessary for living life on your terms.
3.Your Comfort Zone
To make 1 and 2 work, you have to leave your comfort zone.
In the pursuit of aligned partnerships that aren’t rooted in other people’s expectations, you must find the courage to stand up for yourself and communicate your needs. That can be really scary when you’ve never done it before.
Oftentimes, fear holds us back from the life we could create for ourselves. Fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, even fear of how great we could be. When you let fear control your life, you give up the ability to do the things you really want to do and be the person that you are meant to be.
Fear can force us to stay exactly where we are, even if we want to move forward. It’s time to overcome your fears and step into a life that’s actually worth living.
It can be so much easier to release the things that are holding you back when you have a community of people going through exactly the same thing supporting you along the way. Navigating confidence in yourself and creating healthy queer relationships is a journey no matter if you're just coming out or have been out for years, and you don’t have to take that journey alone.
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Dani & Keely
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